Another week passes with no progress on your writing goals.
No first draft, no blog post, no portfolio piece.
Nauseating guilt washes over you. At the beginning of the new year you were so hopeful, even making a New Year’s resolution to write more in 2023.
But you never seem to get around to it, at least not as much as you should.
Feeling too tired, distracted, or overwhelmed to get into the flow, you procrastinate and prioritize everything but writing.
Fed up with this situation, you decide to set the best damn goals the world has ever seen.
Unfortunately, even if you’re setting writing goals that would make Tony Robbins jealous, there’s still a good chance you will fail.
You turn one of your assumptions about writing on its head.
Goal Setting Wisdom: Vapid or Valuable?
You’ve heard it all before.
- Get inspired
- Keep a positive mindset
- Visualize your outcomes
- Repeat positive affirmations
- Connect with your “why”
- Set goals (more on this below)
None of this is bad advice. In fact, these are all useful practices. But are they enough?
And there’s the problem. You’re told that if you follow the conventional wisdom, set clear goals, and keep your chin up, success will be yours.
Even with all these strategies, victory is not guaranteed.
Because there is something inside you, in all of us, that will undermine your best intentions.
But, before we stroll down that dark road, let’s review the basics of goal setting. It’s a necessary first step for achieving your dreams this year.
Simple Step-by-Step S.M.A.R.T. Goal Setting
Want your goals to stand a fighting chance?
Then follow the S.M.A.R.T. formula: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound.
Let’s quickly break down each part:
Specific: Start at the Finish Line
Great goals are specific about what you’re going to achieve and when it will happen.
“How will I know objectively that I accomplished this goal?”
Measurable: Amount of Time vs Word Count Goals
You need measurable goals that are easy to track. Examples include the amount of time spent writing (“30 minutes daily before breakfast”) and word count (“300 words daily before breakfast”).
A simple spreadsheet works well for this:
Tracking enables you to adjust your efforts and expectations based on objective data.
Another method I enjoy using is a simple Kanban style board with the easy to use (and free) writing project management tool, Trello.
Attainable: Smaller Goals vs Larger Goals
Daring to dream big is noble, but some writers are overwhelmed by bigger goals.
Balance big, inspiring (and scary) goals with smaller goals that feel attainable in the short term. These smaller, attainable goals will lead to “quick wins”, which will give you confidence to tackle the larger goals.
Relevant: Sensible in the Big Picture
You want to be an author, blogger, and start a freelance writing side hustle, but only have so much energy and attention to go around.
Choose your goals wisely. Perhaps you can publish your book in two years and start that side hustle now. Focus, Daniel-san!
Time-Bound: Know Your Goal’s Time Frame
“I’m going to write a book someday!”
Cool, good for you. Someday is a convenient synonym for never. We use it to weasel out of doing the hard work now.
Set hard deadlines to avoid this common trap.
Examples of Effective Writing Goals (S.M.A.R.T. Formula in Action)
That’s a lot of info, so let’s pull it all together. Here are a few good example writing goals:
- Blogger: Publish two posts of 2,000+ words every month on my blog in 2023.
- Freelance Writer: Apply to 5 writing gigs every week from January through June of this year.
- Aspiring Author: Complete my rough draft by December of 2023 by writing every evening at 9 pm for 30 minutes non-stop (no editing!).
See how each goal is specific, measurable, easily attainable, very relevant to the goal setter, and has a clear deadline? That’s what you’re looking for.
If you need more help, read this Hubspot article on the do’s and don’ts of S.M.A.R.T. goals.
Okay, so what if you already have killer goals, a sparkling attitude, make generous offerings to the writing gods under a full moon, and still struggle to write consistently?
You’re not alone…
One Thing You Must Rise Above
How often do you feel like writing?
Let me guess, your list of requirements to write includes:
- Feeling inspired, motivated, focused, clear, happy, and confident
- Having extra time, enough energy, peace and quiet, and no distractions
You may be asking then, “How can I set my life up so that I feel like writing more often?”
It’s not a bad question. Energy and time management practices to improve performance and mood are useful. But, this question makes an assumption, missing a deeper truth:
Who says you need to feel a certain way to write?
Other worthwhile and fulfilling achievements aren’t easy. Why should writing be any different?
Look, it’s not just you.
Somewhere along the way we all started giving “how we feel” more weight than it deserves. Sure, let your feelings ride shotgun, but don’t hand them the wheel.
Letting how you feel govern your choices places you at the mercy of what Stephen Pressfield, author of The War of Art, calls “resistance.”
Resistance is an insidious beast with many faces, and must be tamed if you’re ever going to succeed.
It’s the voice that says, “You worked hard today, go ahead and take the evening off.”
It fools you into thinking that mundane tasks are urgent, taking precedence over writing. “Afterall,” it assures you, “writing can wait until tomorrow.”
This whole mess generates a vicious cycle.
You blow off writing. Then you feel guilt, self-loathing, frustration, and sadness. This build-up of bad feelings makes you even less inclined to write — and this pattern becomes a habit.
This destructive cycle devours your dreams, one excruciating day at a time.
We must then question our habit of letting today’s feelings determine the fate of tomorrow’s outcomes.
Not to worry, grasshopper. There’s a better way.
Better Writers Know this Uncomfortable Truth
Not to be dismissive of the very real challenges in your life…
But these demands aren’t going away anytime soon, and you still want to write that book or launch that blog.
If you don’t learn how to decouple your actions from how you feel, your goals will pay dearly.
- No book
- No blog
- Zero followers
- No side income
- No legacy
Because, let’s be real, these are the stakes.
What if, like Ryan Holiday suggests in The Obstacle is the Way, you take a different approach? Not only accepting difficulties as a given, but actually being grateful for them.
What I’m proposing here is to go beyond simply accepting the idea that you will have to write even when you don’t feel like it.
No. Take it further.
Seek Out Discomfort
Savor it like Hannibal Lecter enjoying chianti with his fava beans.
Because here is the secret, my friend.
How you feel will always be inconsistent, but you must become consistent in your actions regardless of how you feel.
This is the key that opens a door to the magical realm of growth and achievement.
Jon Morrow breaks this down nicely in this episode of his podcast Break Through the Noise:
“A lot of times, what success usually means is… actually putting yourself into a state of boredom, into a state of unhappiness, in order to create long term results… It’s short term pain for long term gain.”
And before you get the wrong idea…
This doesn’t have to be an exercise in masochism.
Instead, think of your competing desires like an adult with a child.
The whining child is bored and just wants to play. The loving adult speaks patiently, acknowledging that, “Yes, I know this is hard. I can see you don’t feel like it. Let’s just sit down and write for a moment. You’ll see. It will be fine.”
And you know what?
Every time you choose to act greater than your fear, laziness, and resistance, you build the habit of doing just that. Proving that you are greater than what you feel.
Okay, so how can we do that?
Your Writing Habit: Virtuous Friend or Vicious Foe?
Habits are powerful.
Deeply etched upon your nervous system, they compel you to act without conscious will.
The bad news?
You already have a writing habit — a bad habit.
Remember the vicious cycle mentioned earlier? Cycles are repetitive, and repetition builds habits.
Not to worry!
Now you’ll learn how to create a new cycle — a virtuous cycle that doesn’t rely on you being in the mood to write.
Hack Your Writing Process
How you feel is often at odds with your goals.
Fortunately, there are elements in your daily life that can reliably trigger your drive to write.
There’s a scientific approach to this.
In his book Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything, BJ Fogg provides his A, B, C framework for building what he calls “tiny habits”:
- Anchor: Something happens that reminds us to do the thing
- Behavior: Immediately do the thing
- Celebration: Immediately reward yourself for succeeding
Fogg recommends you start small.
You’re more likely to repeat the process when it’s easy and rewarding. As the behavior gels into habit you can easily scale up, leading to big changes over time.
Here’s how it looks in real life:
- Anchor: Kiss the kids goodnight (a consistent event that triggers your writing routine)
- Behavior: Consider lying on the couch and watching The Bachelorette. No, stay strong! Instead, sit at the kitchen table and write at least one sentence.
- Celebration: Reward yourself by punching the air and shouting, “I am a winner!” or tweet self-congratulatory messages: #goals #bestwriting
- Anchor: Make your morning cuppa’ Joe (this will never not happen)
- Behavior: Look longingly at your phone, imagining what you’re missing on Insta. Stop! Shuffle over to your desk, sit down, and write for 5 minutes (to start) before breakfast.
- Celebration: Eat chocolate cake for breakfast. Or, you know, just have a small piece of that fancy dark chocolate you love.
Notice how you’re not trying to achieve maximum output. At least, not yet. As these routines become habit, your word count and writing times will naturally increase.
Do you see the difference between the old “feelings first” approach and this new model?
Fogg’s method does generate good feelings in the final celebratory phase of his process. There’s nothing wrong with that. But, these feelings only help reinforce what you’re already committed to doing.
The only time you need to make any decisions about whether you’re going to write is when you initially set your goals.
From then on, regardless of how you feel, just write when the anchor event happens. No deciding. No rationalizing your way out of it.
Your Shockingly Good Year
Not writing feels terrible. It eats away at your soul, undermining your self-worth.
Remember, setting goals is necessary for achieving something great this year, but it’s not enough.
You must stay vigilant, keeping watch for the antics of that wiley trickster inside you. It will say anything to keep you from writing. Because while you’re goofing off, it feasts on your dreams.
Instead, you must cultivate a writing habit — stop relying on fickle feelings to drive your progress.
And when you reach the end of the year?
Imagine how amazing it’s going to feel not only hitting, but surpassing your goals.
When you finally:
- Grow your blog
- Break into a new niche
- Multiply your income
No more sadness and frustration. No more guilt, shame, or self-doubt. And no more wondering whether you have what it takes!
You will be in control, with the power, confidence, and freedom to shape your destiny. Not only as a writer, but in all areas of your life.
If you haven’t set S.M.A.R.T. goals, do that right away. Don’t wait!
Then think about a simple routine you can start tomorrow. What trigger will remind you it’s time to write regardless of how you feel?
Remember, if it feels uncomfortable, hard, or scary then you’re on the right track.
You, the courageous writer who dines on discomfort and relishes resistance, are unstoppable.
Good luck! You got this!
24 thoughts on “Why You’ll Never Reach Your Writing Goals in 2023 (Unless…)”
I can already feel how this is going to help me in my writing journey. I’m going to print it out and then follow with all my heart.
Thank you very much.
That’s awesome, TOPZ!
So happy this helped you. I think printing it out for regular review is an excellent idea. 🙂
I have faith in your ability to accomplish your goals this year. Go for it!
Inspiring post, James. The concrete suggestions and examples are very helpful. I use Trello so will definitely check out that Kabana method you mentioned. Haven’t heard of that before. Thanks for the info!
Thank you, Dawn!
Great to hear that you found the examples helpful (I put a lot of thought into them!). Yeah, Trello is great. It’s a simple method, which is good, because we already have enough complexity in life.
Best wishes on hitting your goals this year!
S.M.A.R.T. goals were part of my corporate experience. Naturally, my personal goals were always tied to the company’s goals. (Makes sense, but not very personally fulfilling.)
Now that I’m on my own, I’m accountable for my own success. Period.
Setting goals and executing those goals is the only way to get ahead. It’s scary but very fulfilling at the same time.
Thanks for the tips and inspiration, James!
You’re welcome, Barbara!
I think that’s one of the great challenges of working for yourself–it’s up to us and only us to make this happen. No one to boss us around, but also no one to give us structure. It’s enough to make me break out in a cold sweat at times.
Good thing for goals!
Happy my words inspired you. 🙂
This is a great post and an encouraging one for me. No matter how determined we may be as writers, we need motivation just like other professionals.
I love the part about using tiny habits. Writing a 2,000-word post may look daunting, but writing 200 words is similar to writing a Facebook post. Which is easy for most.
When writers wait to feel before writing, it can be a trap. Most times, the fear for writers is that the writing quality will be poor if you write without the “good feeling.” Most times, this proves to be wrong.
Personally, these two quotes from top authors challenge me:
“Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and go to work” – Stephen King
“I need to write to be happy” – Nora Roberts
Writing is a constant challenge.
Thanks for the post!
Thank you, Samuel!
Great point about writing a Facebook post. Most people write much more than they realize each day.
If I waited for that good feeling, writing just wouldn’t happen very often. I get to work, knowing that the first words that come aren’t going to be very good. But that stuff has to be written down to clear the way for better ideas. The sooner I get the junk out, the sooner I can access the better ideas.
Those are great quotes. Thanks for commenting!
P.s. Wishing you all the best in achieving your goals this year. 🙂
I am a content writer. This post is inspiring and informative. It was such a relatable post and while reading I felt as if someone’s getting into my mind and answering the questions. Thanks for sharing the thoughts and helping me to write great content.
That’s great, Nishkam!
So happy you found this post helpful.
Best of luck with all your writing goals this year. 🙂
Setting goals and executing those goals is the only way to get ahead. It’s scary but very fulfilling at the same time.
That’s so true, Nada!
Being scared is a good sign. It’s evidence that we’re playing near (or beyond) the edge of our comfort zone.
Wishing you strength and courage in reaching your goals this year. 🙂
The right thing at the right moment. Thanks a bunch James Everett Youngblood! And a great writing too. I thought it’s Jon Morrow’s before I got to the end:-) Keep up the good work!
You’re welcome, Elena. 🙂
So glad this post was helpful.
Wow, you’re too kind! Jon is a great teacher (though I can only dream of the day I’m anywhere near his level). He’s a legend.
Thank you, and best of luck with all your goals this year.
Great post, James!
My favorite line: “Not writing…eats away at your soul, undermining your self-worth.”
I learned SMART goal setting in college. I don’t follow it exactly, but do use the principles in my daily life.
My favorite writing quote is Jack London’s “You can’t wait for inspiration, you have to go after it with a stick” 🙂 That’s what came to mind instantly when I read this.
And @Dawn: Not sure if I missed it, but what is the Kabana method?
Thank you, Sarah!
Love that quote. 🙂
It’s great that you still use some of those goal setting principles you learned in college. My understanding is that surprisingly few people set goals, so you’re already a step ahead of the pack.
Kanban is a way to organize and visualize the workflow of your projects: https://blog.trello.com/kanban-101
Good luck with hitting those goals!
Hey there James!
I knew/sensed you had right Tiny Habits even before you mentioned it in the post 😀
Tiny Habits is awesome. So glad I got the book and also took up BJ Fogg on his offer of a free “course” reading the book with him. Looking forward to tonight’s installment!
Hahaha, that’s so cool. You know what they say: Great minds think alike. 🙂
Now is a great time to upgrade our skills, and understanding the mechanics of habit building really pays off over the long haul.
Thanks for reading (and commenting)!
I have a feeling you’re going to crush your writing goals this year.
Thanks for such a well-written post! It covered everything. I already knew about some of the information, but there was also a lot I learned. This is definitely share-worthy content! I’ve bookmarked this page so that I can refer back to it. Thanks again!
You’re welcome! So glad you learned something new. 🙂
Thanks so much for reading and sharing, and good luck with all your goals this year!
This is a very informative article and the way you have described it is great and I get pretty much my doubt clear through the example of effective goals.
I found very much help from it and once again thanks for this knowledge full post and keep writing like this.
Thank you for the kind words. 🙂
I’m so happy you gained clarity around effective goal setting.
Best of luck with achieving your writing goals this year!
I knew about SMART but hadn’t thought about an ABC checklist.
You’ve given me a simple directive for my daily writing habit, and I love the “anchor” to start.
I’ll post ABC on my corkboard to look at every morning.
Great idea putting it on your board! Those daily reminders are powerful.
Wishing you success with all your goals this year. 🙂