On Gluttony, Selfishness, and Unleashing the Power Within

On Gluttony, Selfishness, and Unleashing the Power Within

People are getting more selfish every day.

Have you noticed?

In the US, today is Thanksgiving. Traditionally, it’s a holiday about thankfulness and family and generosity, a day to remind yourself of all the good things and people in your life.

But that’s changing.

It’s becoming more and more about gluttony. Not just sharing a meal with your family, but eating until you put yourself in a turkey-induced coma, waiting a few hours, and then doing it again. Or, if you’re really impatient, you just go into the bathroom and make yourself throw up, so you can eat some more.

Oh, and then there’s shopping. Black Friday, Cyber Monday, the best deals of the year, anywhere. You can finally buy all that stuff you don’t really need because, hey, you’re getting a deal.

Personally, I find it disturbing. Not the meals or deals, but the change of focus.

Getting food, getting full, getting a good deal, getting a discount, getting a break. Getting, getting, getting.

But what about giving?

What about focusing on other people?

What about selflessness and service and gratitude and appreciation?

It’s disappearing. Not just on holidays but in people in general.

And it bothers me. So today, I decided to take a stand.

I’m not eating a Thanksgiving meal. I’m not going shopping. I’m going to try not to think about myself at all.

Instead, I’m going to be thankful. You know, what the holiday was originally supposed to be about.

And you know what I’m most thankful for?

You.

I don’t even know you, but you read my blog. You share posts with your friends. You buy stuff.

Without you, I would be in a nursing home somewhere, hooked up to a morphine drip, watching Jerry Springer episodes all day. That’s where guys like me are. We are shoved into a back room where no one has to watch us struggle and suffer and die.

But that’s not what happened to me.

Instead of shoving me into a back room, you put me in front of a podium. You asked me to speak. With this blog, you gave me a microphone powerful enough to reach the entire world.

In exchange, you only asked one thing:

That I tell you the truth.

Not just tips and tricks, not just the occasional truism or tidbit of wisdom, not the murky, filtered version of reality fed to us by most blogs, but brutal, unflinching, hit-me-right-between-the-eyes honesty.

And here lately, I’ve withheld it. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I haven’t been writing much over the past few months.

Partly, it’s because BBT is growing at such a rapid pace that I now spend most of my time managing other people. Partly, it’s because I worked myself nearly to exhaustion, and I’ve spent some time resting. Partly though, it’s because I’ve had some big realizations lately.

Let me tell you a little story.

I was screaming at the top of my lungs.

And I wasn’t alone. Around me, 7,000 people gave their own battle cries, their eyes shining, their voices roaring out in defiance.

That’s when the music started โ€“ music so loud I could feel it reverberating in my chest. Cheering, thousands of people began dancing, shaking the floor in their numbers.

If you’d stepped in at that moment, you would’ve thought you were at a rock concert, but you would’ve been wrong. It was a self-improvement seminar.

And I was there because an honest-to-God giant asked me to come.

A few weeks earlier, I was going through my mail and noticed a bulky envelope. My assistant opened it, and two laminated badges fell out, along with a letter from none other than Tony and Sage Robbins.

As it turns out, a friend sent my post about my mother to Sage (Tony’s wife). She loved it and asked her assistant to send me a personal invitation to attend Tony’s next seminar.

Along with two $3,000 tickets to sit in the VIP area.

So, that’s where I found myself. To the left, I saw real estate and infomercial mogul Dean Graziosi. To the right, hip-hop and R&B superstar Usher was going through the exercises like everyone else (my assistant nearly fainted when she saw him step out to go to the restroom). I’m sure lots of the other people around me were celebrities as well, but I’m not much of a celebrity watcher, so I didn’t recognize them.

The most surreal part, though?

Tony Robbins.

The Giant of the Self-Improvement Industry

At 6’7″ tall and at least 250 pounds of pure muscle, Tony is quite literally a giant.

But he’s also the Energizer Bunny.

Born in 1960, he’s now 54 years old, and yet he was on stage for more than 14 hours straight. If he stepped out to go to the bathroom, he must have gone when I did because I never saw him leave.

And he wasn’t just standing there, talking. Every few minutes, he would motion to a DJ to crank up the music and stage lights, and he danced on stage. He also walked around the auditorium constantly.

I’ve never seen anything like it.

Some people say Tony is a scam artist. They say his show is just a gigantic con, and he preys on people’s desperation to manipulate them into paying him thousands of dollars.

For the record, I don’t think it’s true. He seemed totally genuine to me, but even if he wasn’tโ€ฆ according to Forbes, Tony is worth more than $400 million. He can afford to do anything he wants for the rest of his life.

And yet look at how he chooses to use his time.

Can you imagine walking and dancing for 14 hours straight? With no food? And then getting up the next day to do the whole thing all over again? When you absolutely DON’T need the money?

I was stunned, and to be clear, I’m not a groupie. I own three of Tony’s books, and I’ve read them all (even his new one, which is enormous), but I’ve never bought any of his products, nor did I have any ambition to attend one of his events. If not for the free tickets, I doubt I would’ve ever gone.

But I’m glad I did. It convinced me to dig into why I do what I do.

And honestly?

I didn’t like what I found.

The dangers of goalsetting

You’ve heard you need to set goals, right? Make them specific, write them down, review them on occasion, and all that jazz.

It sounds like good advice, and it is, but there’s also a hidden danger no one tells you about:

It can make you selfish.

When I started blogging, all I wanted to do was help as many people as possible. Everything I did from morning until night was about refining my message and then spreading it as far as possible, exclusively for your benefit.

And it worked.

The launch for this blog was the biggest in history. It’s also one of the fastest-growing blogs ever, reaching $500,000 in gross revenue in only nine months.

Somewhere along the way though, things shifted. Looking at all my success, I set new goals for the future, goals for revenue and traffic and email list growth.

Sounds innocent enough, right? After all, you probably have your own goals you’re trying to hit.

But here’s a question for you:

Are those goals about you? Or are they about your audience?

For me, everything became about numbers. Instead of thinking about helping people, I got wrapped up in quantifying my own success.

And I’m not the only one.

One of the reasons I’ve been so quiet lately is I’ve noticed that some of the things I’m teaching encourage my students to have a selfish attitude. Everything is about more traffic, more subscribers, more money.

The more I look at it, it’s just another type of gluttony. Just as Thanksgiving has been perverted to focus on food instead of thankfulness, blogging has been perverted to focus on getting instead of giving.

You want to get more traffic. You want to get more subscribers. You want to get more customers.

The problem?

The secret isn’t getting. It’s giving.

The Question to Ask Yourself Whenever You Feel Lost

So, without goals like traffic and subscribers and revenue, how exactly are you supposed to move forward?

By asking yourself this one simple question:

How can you give people an experience so life-changing they will feel indebted to you forever?

Because that’s why everything else happens.

Want to get lots of traffic?

Create content so incredibly good that people feel indebted to you, and the only way they can think to repay you even the slightest bit is to share it with their friends and family.

Want to build your email list faster?

Create an incentive to join your email list that’s so incredibly that good people feel like they should have paid you for it, and so they stay on your email list for the next decade, looking for an excuse to buy anything and everything you sell.

Want to make more money?

Create a product that’s so incredibly good it helps your customers achieve things they never thought possible, creating an experience that can only be described as “miraculous.”

Or, in other words, give.

Give so much and so big that you hold your entire industry in your debt. Give so much and so big that other people laugh and call you insane. Give so much and so big that you can never be repaid, not even if your entire audience paid you every penny they earned until the day they died.

What’s moreโ€ฆ

Stop thinking about yourself

When Tony Robbins gets on stage for 14 hours straight, he’s not thinking about himself. The only possible reason to do that is because it creates a better experience for the audience.

And by the way, it’s an experience like no other. I think of myself as a pragmatic intellectual, and I went to Unleash the Power Within with a great deal of skepticism, but I came out a huge fan.

Nothing mystical happened – no sudden, brain-melting epiphany or religious experience. If I had to describe it, I would say it’s like being marinated in awesomeness. For three days, I just soaked up the good vibes, and I came out a little spicier than I was before.

Tony also inspired me to rededicate myself to living my life in service of others. It’s what I used to do, but somehow I got away from it, and he pulled me back.

So, I want to do the same for you. Specifically, I want to ask you for a favor. In one word:

Give

Instead of making your life about how much you can get, why not make it about how much you can give?

And not just today.

If you’re in another part of the world, all of this Thanksgiving stuff is meaningless to you, but you can see the selfishness, right? It’s a growing problem, not just in the USA, but worldwide.

We can’t change that, but we can decide how we want to live ourselves. We can choose to be givers instead of getters.

Personally, I’m going to spend the day writing thank-you notes to people I care about. That’s the real purpose of the holiday, after all.

Sometimes the most valuable thing you can give people isn’t money or time or information. It’s simple appreciation.

Give them your love.

Give them your thanks.

And most of all, give them yourself.

Too often, we hide our thoughts and emotions. We don’t say what we really mean. We distract ourselves with televisions and computers and other gadgets so we can avoid truly being in the moment.

But I think that’s a mistake.

We need to turn off the gadgets. We need to turn off our internal editors. We need to turn off our ruminations about the past and our worries about the future and simply be with people we love.

And if none of them are near you?

Find a complete stranger and give your love to them. They’ll think you’re a weirdo, but so what?

Normal people don’t change the world. Weirdos do.

So, let’s be weird, shall we? You and me.

Let’s be the most insanely generous givers the world has ever seen.

About the Author: Jon Morrow has asked repeatedly to be called “His Royal Awesomeness” but no one listens to him. So, he settles for CEO of Boost Blog Traffic, Inc. Poor man.ย ๐Ÿ™‚

144 Comments

  1. Abraham
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:04:47

    Hi Jon,

    I’ve been waiting for this post and wow.. it actually came.

    We all have to think about the audience. Though I haven’t launch anything equivalent to call an online presence, I have the two-year plan sitting in my journal.

    We bloggers don’t have to selfish afterall.

  2. Andrew
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:06:21

    Hi Jon,

    Bravo. This is an exceptionally awesome post. I’ve only been blogging for about a year now and as I was reading this post, I couldn’t help thinking “Hey, I was like that when I first started out. I was all about giving and making it ALL about the reader.”

    It’s so true what you said. When you really start to accumulate some sort of success, you set new goals. And those goals aren’t necessarily about your readers. Quite frankly, they’re about you.

    But in retrospect, it really is all about giving. Giving your readers what they want. Giving them what they need. Giving them what they desire so much so that they become in love with what you write and share that wither everyone they know.

    But what’s interesting is I’ve been thinking about this lately and actually intended to write thank you notes to bloggers/readers who’ve helped me along my first year of blogging. And after reading this post, I can now justify that it’s a good idea.

    Have a great day, Jon. I, as well as the rest of the BBT community appreciate you and everything that you do to help and educate us.

    – Andrew

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:38:10

      Definitely write those thank you notes.

  3. Jake Mcspirit
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:24:09

    Hi Jon,

    One of the biggest things in my life is the idea of ‘helping’ others to help themselves, so this post really hit home with me.

    I love where you’re coming from with it, and I think you are an awesome guy for posting it.

    Best of luck with the shifted trajectory,
    Jake.

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:38:32

      Thanks Jake.

  4. Ling Abson
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:25:06

    Profound. Tears in my eyes. Could be the Peaceful Christmas Pop playlist that’s playing in my ears. Thanks for reminding us what’s important. My favourite line:

    “Give so much and so big that you can never be repaid, not even if your entire audience paid you every penny they earned until the day they died.”

    I’m preparing my first live training to my first group of people. So lots of firsts. My thoughts have been “How the heck do I pull this off?” Now, I am changing that question to “How do I give so much to them that will delight the heck out of them?” Thanks for putting things in perspective. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:39:27

      Exactly. My prediction: everyone on that live training is going to love you.

  5. Leigh Shulman
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:27:02

    Hi Jon,

    So much in your post that I’m not sure where to begin.

    First, I don’t celebrate Thanksgiving either. Mostly because I live in Argentina, and today is just a regular day here. I’ve considered doing the Thanksgiving dinner anyway, but since I’m far from family (and there’s no cranberry, sweet potato or pumpkin here), it just doesn’t feel the same.

    What I do, though, is I share this link: http://1027kord.com/10-things-food-banks-need-but-wont-ask-for/

    What I like about this is that it shows ways of giving that really allow us to see those who need food as human beings who aren’t simply in need of a full belly but of a little something extra as comfort.

    Have a happy Thanksgiving day and all days to follow. Because really, that’s what it’s about, isn’t it?

    • Stephanie Seegars
      Nov 28, 2014 @ 05:00:58

      Thank you for this link Leigh!

  6. Amandah
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:27:23

    Lovely post!

    “For me, everything became about numbers. Instead of thinking about helping people, I got wrapped up in quantifying my own success.” EXACTLY! This turns me off when it comes to building a business online, and it’s probably one of the reasons I became disillusioned.

    Many of the courses available are focused on “getting” you, the business ower, numbers. You can “get” 50,000,000 Facebook Likes, 50,000,000 Twitter followers, etc. But what does it mean? If you’re not connecting with your audience, it won’t matter how many comments, shares, followers, and likes your receive. You won’t sell books, products, services, etc.

    I’ve grown this year. When I wake up, I meditate and say, “Thank You.” I also ask, “What good may I do today? How may I help and serve?” I’m also into visualization.

    There’s nothing wrong with wanting to get followers, likes, etc. It’s what you do to get them — it’s how you service your audience.

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:41:06

      So true. I’d rather have 1,000 raving fans than 50 million people who can’t remember who the hell I am.

  7. Harleena Singh
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:27:29

    Hi Jon,

    What a lovely post, and it’s a pleasure to read one from you after SO long. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Let me start by wishing you a very Happy Thanksgiving. Yes, it’s a day of giving, and it is in giving that we receive the immense pleasure – something I’ve always believed and practiced.

    I was nodding all through your post, Jon, and you are so right in all that you wrote – we are becoming selfish and blogging is all about the traffic, ranks, email lists, subscribers, comments – all a number game! It was a tough one, but I did take a decision to remove all the social count (numbers) from my social buttons – for this very reason.

    I’d rather people subscribe without me offering them anything free, without pushing them, and even though the list grows slowly, I know it’s growing surely, as such people stay, and don’t leave after taking your free stuff. Just my feelings presently, but things change and so do people.

    Just loved this post, and I am glad I am doing my little bit by helping people through the small blog community and new forum I started on my blog, which is ALL about helping each other, caring, sharing, and paying it forward – with no strings attached – free and open for all ๐Ÿ™‚

    Thanks for sharing, and keep writing – we LOVE to read you. And though I am at the other end of the world, but Thanksgiving is what we all must celebrate and make it part of our lives. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:45:05

      Thank you Harleena. I always enjoy reading your thoughtful comments.

      One thing to think about on the subscribers: will offering a freebie increase your impact on people or decrease it?

      The reason I offer one is because it gives me a greater opportunity to follow up over time. More connections equals more results. So, by getting their email address, I’m increasing the degree I can help them 100 fold.

      Does that make sense?

      Having a a freebie isn’t about benefit to you. It’s about the benefit to them.

  8. Marsha
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:27:32

    Well said, Jon, as always. You have perfectly expressed my feelings about giving vs. grabbing, and yes, I also think the grabbing is getting worse and worse.

    But Thanksgiving is a celebration of abundance, and I wouldn’t miss it, even if most of the cooking falls to me. I will have the pleasure of being at table with husband, daughter and son-in-law, dear friends, and three grandkids who will provide enough memories to keep us laughing through the long winter.

    Bless you, Jon, for all you do.
    Marsha

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:48:05

      I don’t think there’s anything wrong with celebrating with your family. I hope you have a genuinely lovely time. ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Tom Southern
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:27:55

    Moving as ever Jon! It’s all about giving something back that shows imagination and creativity and a big dollop of Thanks. Something that shows beyond doubt that success is community activity It happens when people help each other out. No strings attached.

    Live for the moment. Do something nice, something of value for someone, out of the blue, just for the sheer Hell of it. Because the joy and togetherness it brings is powerful.

    Hope you’re still taking time out to relax Jon, just a little anyway.

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:49:30

      “A big dollop of Thanks.” I like that phrase. ๐Ÿ™‚

      And yeah, I relax from time to time. More than I used to, but still probably not as much as I should.

  10. Laurel T Colins
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:32:11

    I really appreciate your post and your message is very timely. Happy Thanks”Giving” to you.

  11. PJ Reece
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:32:21

    Jon… Thank YOU for that. This whole blog culture needs a correction, and you may have started it. I’ve been concentrating on “value” in my blog posts for five years — thanks to you and the like of Seth Godin. Btw… I’m coming to you from Mazatlan… where this all started for you, if I’m not mistaken. Saludos amigo.

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:50:26

      Saludos!

  12. Mary Collings
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:33:08

    Dammit Jon, How do you do that? Your post hit me right in the solar plexus. I’m winded.

    And envious. Tony frikkin’ Robbins? I love that man. Now there’s a giver. How many people with that amount of money in the bank are doing what he does? Probably one.

    And he’s right…and you’re right too, Jon.

    I felt guilty as I read this because my journey was (note past tense) about getting. Making that shift to giving brings the joy back. It’s shouldn’t be a chore of gaining numbers – but it was.

    The way forward is to share the excitement and the passion.

    You deserve that podium and in my eyes you will forever be “His Royal Awesomeness” because you tell us the truth. Sometimes it hurts but it’s always the most valuable thing you can give.

    Thank you, Jon. A very happy Thanksgiving to you.

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:51:41

      Happy Thanksgiving to you as well, Mary. ๐Ÿ™‚

  13. Greg Butler
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:34:41

    Thank you Jon for this inspired post. But you know what? Your whole life is one big inspired statement about transcending limitations. Thank you for being that inspiration.

    Yes, Thanksgiving is a reminder to give, to love, and be thankful. And in doing so, we can discover the infinite possibilities of the creative spirit.

    Thank you in helping so many of us in that direction.

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:52:12

      Happy Thanksgiving, Greg!

  14. Michael Chibuzor
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:38:38

    What a post John. Although I’m not from the US, but from the theme, ” thanksgiving day” it should be all about giving. I read every bit of word on this page and felt like shedding tears (I actually did a little). You’ve made me a better writer and henceforth, I’ll focus on giving – not getting.

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:53:13

      I always count shedding tears as a private victory. Go change the world, my friend.

  15. Josh Denning
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:40:07

    Hi Jon,

    Super impressive. Great stand and I for one agree with you.. Everyone in many of the holiday seasons needs to take a step back and remember to share love, gratitude, thankfulness and giving with one another..

    It can’t be just about more, more, more of everything..

    Great post Jon.. Let’s get some love, thoughtfulness and giving back into our holidays; and every day with each other for that matter..

    Best, Josh

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:00:34

      Amen. ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. Maria Killam
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:40:14

    Love this post, I’ve never seen Tony live but I can’t wait to receive his book, ordered it a week ago! x Maria

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:02:00

      You have to see him live. It’s insane.

  17. Ray Haakonsen
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:42:52

    Jon I havent followed you for long and Ive had a struggling blog for about 4 years now. I have for many years had a clear desire to help, inspire and encourage others…my choice of vocation with my wife, despite having trained as a miltary pilot, was missions. For 25 years we served people, the last 10 of those years founding and building a care center for abandoned and HIV/AIDS babies.

    Sadly the adage that you cant outgive yourself did not work with us and we got to a place of burnout, depression and total compassion fatigue……also with nothing in our pocket having raised millions for the kids and their care..leaving behind R16 Million of our South African currency worth of care facility buil;t from scratch!

    Do we regret what we’ve done…no way!!!! Have we learnt anything…Yes way!!!! At age 59 Im trying to regroup following 3 years (so far) of unemployment since we handed over our center to a great younger couple. Im investigating online income potential, with a real inclination toward writing and speaking…however Ive been all over the place…following numerous people who have done well in their craft, Michael Hyatt, Jeff Goins, Brendon Burchard, Jon Morrow, Jesse Kriegler, Marisa murgatroyd, to name a few………:-)

    All this to say I am still seeking the way forward but know, whatever that way is, it surely will still be to serve and give to others through my gifts…I live in South Africa but have very good friends who are American and I believe they still have a form of balance…between celebrating themselves with family etc, but also reaching out to others……Great blog and thank you for daring to write something along the lines of “Not celebrating Thanksgiving” to draw our attention to the fact that there are many out there in need of material, emotional and spiritual help…lest we forget…lets do this!

    Sorry I’m not known for brevity and your blog struck a cord…obviously!!

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:06:47

      I think there’s some real wisdom in your point about giving too much. Yes, you have to give, but never so much that you go under. Taking care of yourself is always a priority as well, because otherwise, you lose the capacity to give. Sounds like you might have gone through that.

  18. Lisa Robbin Young
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:44:53

    When I work with clients around goals, I always ask them to dig into their own definition of success – rarely does it have to do with hitting specific numbers, but rather about how they can show up more authentically and focus on what really matters to them. The numbers rarely matter, and when they do, it’s generally in terms of a larger impact, versus the numbers themselves.

    When people get clear on what really matters to THEM, and ignore the “Shoulds” of others, that’s when success gets real.

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 18:51:33

      So true. “Shoulds” are the root of all evil, in my opinion.

  19. Julia Falco
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 10:58:33

    Yep… as I see it people nowadays live to eat and not the other way around … it’s sad! I wonder if we have learned a lesson from The Great Depression?

  20. Stephen Peters
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:00:47

    Hi Jon,

    Thank you for your beautiful post today about giving. You spelled it out so well and it touched my heart with yours……wow. I am celebrating Thanksgiving today but you have encouraged me to focus a little more on “giving”. That is all that it really takes is “little” changes that turn into “big” changes.

  21. Sophie
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:04:31

    Jon, your voice stands out–I have always loved it and love it here. I’m fascinated by blogging, yet as a life-long social justice advocate and organizer, I have always found the up-and-coming (or mega-) blogger/entrepreneur world to be a bit narrow-minded and navel-gazing. Sure, success is hypnotic–we all want to feel free. But that freedom comes from within. I give to others, yes, and have learned to give to myself, too. I listen to my soul–whether it says to reach out and take a chance, or to quiet down and look within; to give myself some color therapy with nontoxic nail polish, or to take a thoughtful stand on a controversial topic. Personally, I don’t care if people feel indebted to me for what I give; my abundance comes from the Universe, not particular individuals. I just want to inspire and make a difference. Thank YOU for being yourself, it’s absolutely delightful and YES–educational and helpful, as well as humanizing, inspiring, heart-ful, and fun. ๐Ÿ™‚

  22. Leanne Regalla
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:06:12

    Great stuff, Jon.

    Thanksgiving is probably my favorite holiday, because traditionally it has been more about giving thanks than about commercial crap. It’s quieter (in my family) and about the important things. You’re right, hucksters try to drown out that silly meaningful stuff with greed and getting. I will always tune that out.

    But thanks for bringing the focus back around to what we do for our audiences. Remember how long ago we talked about setting goals like, “Helping X number of people to do Y?” We can probably recast many of our goals in this way…

    My plan for today is to shoot a message off to my audience, get the food in the oven, and do a bit of work while it cooks. I’ll probably handwrite this post over a few times. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    There’s a saying – “When I count my blessings, I count you twice.” That’s for you, Jon. Happy Thanksgiving! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 18:54:21

      I’m thankful for you too, Leanne. Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!

  23. Mindie Kniss
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:08:17

    Fantastic.
    ‘Nuff said.

    Happy Thanksgiving, Jon.

  24. Carla Fleming
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:08:49

    Jon, this was beautiful. Thank you for that and for your ever honest and heartfelt perspective. And great to hear you enjoyed “Unleash” as much as I did! I left the event forever changed and inspired. (Just as I left yours!) Much love and Happy Thanksgiving for all the right reasons. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Grateful for you!

  25. Hannah Ransom
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:15:08

    Love the post, Jon! I am so tired of almost all internet marketing and can see people getting wrapped up in it so quickly, totally losing focus of their original meaning/direction for their business.

  26. Casey
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:21:21

    This is a great post! Very uplifting! I’ve gotten a little distracted about thinking about how I can make a living off my blog, but I just need to focus back on giving to my readers. It’s such an honor to have readers to begin with that I feel like I owe them just for coming to my website! I’m going to try to spend today focusing on giving to my readers and showing appreciation for my friends and family. Thanks for helping me refocus!

    • Jon Morrow
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 18:55:57

      It’s SO easy to get distracted, but yes, focus on your readers. Give to them, and they’ll give right back.

  27. Melissa Perry
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:23:19

    Dear HRH (couldn’t resist),
    Loved your post today. I tbink I will write some thank you notes too. Thank you for the big reminder!

    Melissa Perry

  28. Karen Cioffi
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:23:25

    Jon, this is an amazing post. Maybe one of your best. You bring home such a valid point of how giving is more important than receiving and how we should apply that to our writing and marketing. Thanks for the inspirational post.

  29. Lori James
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:26:11

    Jon,

    This is such a wonderful post, and so true! Even my inbox is full of Thanksgiving Day specials…today only you can buy this, that or the other thing. I don’t believe in shopping on Thanksgiving or even Black Friday.

    I’m having dinner with my family, who I am very grateful and thankful for. They have been there for me through a very hard time, so for my it’s all about being thankful. Others I’m not so sure about…I see a lot of “getting” instead of “giving” going on all around me.

    I have a blog that has meaning to me (not the biggest money making niche around, lol!). My blog is to provide help to other grandparents who are raising their grandchildren, and to share with them. It’s in the beginning stages and has been neglected the past 2 months due to life circumstances, but I have many things I want to share in the near future.

    If more people would just help and care about each other this world would be a much better place. I am always happy to give whatever I can whether it’s a dollar, a hug or doing something helpful for someone.

    I think you’re right about the shift regarding Thanksgiving, it’s sad.

    Happy Thanksgiving to you Jon!

    Lori

  30. Tea Silvestre
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:30:29

    I had the pleasure of seeing Tony Robbins in person about 10 years ago. He was only on stage for about an hour (there were lots of other speakers), but he made a deep impression on me that day.

    You, too, have made a deep impression on me, Jon. When I first began my online adventures, you were there to inspire me, teach me, and goad me on to do my best. Never forget that you’ve touched innumerable lives in your time here on Earth.

    About two years ago, tho, I became disillusioned with the world of online marketing. So many people making so many promises that were — at best — difficult if not impossible to achieve. The constant barrage of messages to “kill it online,” to be the most popular, have the most fans, the largest traffic numbers…it all comes a costly price (on top of whatever thousands of dollars you pay people to teach you these tricks).

    I’ve been calling it the Glorification of More for months. And calling for it to stop. Our world is killing itself (just take a peek at the news at any given moment) and the ONE thing that will save us is our relationships with each other.

    We need to use our super powers for good. We need to encourage our audiences to pay more attention to the relationships and less to their bank account.

    I can’t tell you how truly happy I am to hear that you’re shifting your focus. Away from getting (six figures?) to giving. Helping your audience see we can give more than we think we have it in us to give, yes. But also being careful to give ourselves space and time to have real lives, REAL relationships — whether those are started online or off.

    I lift my glass to your heart’s new position. We need you to help lead us away from the crazy. xoxo

  31. John Benzick
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:35:30

    Meaningful and impactful post, Jon. It will impact me all day, for sure. And then some.

    Another life-giving writing on the subject of transformative “selflessness and service” is a book I just finished called “Business Secrets of Trappist Monks.”

    On this Thanksgiving morning, I’m thankful for YOUR contribution to the world, Jon, in advising us.

    Happy Thanksgiving.

  32. Lynne from Design The Life You Want To Live
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:37:10

    Jon!

    Dude, you rock out loud. I’ve been following you for forever, and you are my all time fave. So, without sounding gushy, I wanted to say WOW, and thank you for writing this post today!

    Isn’t it cool to be in the VIP with Tony Robbins?! I had the absolute pleasure of dong the exact same thing. Errrhmergerd. I actually did it twice, on personal invite from Tony and Sage. I loved every minute of it.

    This isn’t about me though … I just wanted to say THANK YOU for sharing this with so many. It is really LIFE ALTERING to watch/listen to Tony Robbins and to walk on fire with him.

    I only wish I was there with you… and although you can’t physically walk the fire, I would have done it for you. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I wrote about it in my blog http://www.lynneknowlton.com/unleash-the-power-within-tony-robbins/

    PS. I talked to Glen Long when I was in England in September. I would love love love love to talk to you both again about offering some spots for guest blog posts on my blog for your students. Glen may remember me through Paul Back.

    With much love and many THANKS,
    Lynne Knowlton from Design The Life You Want To Live xx

  33. Flora Morris Brown
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:40:50

    Hi Jon,

    Thank you for always sharing so generously of yourself and encouraging us to give of ourselves as well.

    Your post inspires me to rededicate myself to giving my clients, friends and family the most precious things possible: my time, love, full attention and appreciation.

    Thank you again for leading the way.

  34. Joseph Bernard, Ph.D (@explorelife)
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:47:33

    Thanks Jon,

    Your writing rocks!!! Thanks for the inspiration. I have kept my heart in my blogging. It has always been about giving. I want to figure out how to touch more people with my heart and my soul. I’m on a mission to change the world by uplifting our collective consciousness. That means lots of us raising our thoughts, using our higher minds and hearts so we can move past the blindness of beliefs and opinions and instead live at the level of compassion and true awareness.

  35. Sarah J. Sequins
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:51:36

    Jon, I abandoned my jewelry business and blog because it all felt… empty. I started to concentrate on being a dog walker and pet sitter, and I have to say, I’m never happier than when I’m making animals happy. Or when I’m making their people happy by playing Auntie Sarah to their four-legged family members.

    (But it’s mainly about the dogs. Dogs are my people.)

    It makes me wonder if all the gluttony and overspending isn’t a result of most Americans feeling hollow. Maybe they’re trying to fill up, but with the wrong things. When I felt trapped in the world of cutesie Etsy listings, I sure as hell self-medicated with food. I still do, to some extent, because that’s what eating-disordered people do. But it always happens when I feel that void inside, like when I miss my favorite dogs or when I wonder why I can’t connect with human beings the way I do with golden retrievers.

    I think Americans, and people in general, are looking for deeper meaning in life, even if they can’t admit it. But instead of trying to rise above the world of reality television and McDonald’s and silly Facebook posts, they’re just diving further in. Because at its heart, so much of our culture is about being mindless.

    Thank you, Jon, for NOT being mindless.

  36. Anne
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 11:52:46

    Jon,

    you will never be in a nursing home somewhere, hooked up to a morphine drip; we you readers and clients won’t let that happen.

    In your case, getting more customers, more traffic, more peeps on your list IS giving. You’re the best out there, Guest Blogging is a wonderful program, so you have my permission to GET more people who will benefit from your advice.

    Today I went for my kids at school and I chose to give. I cooked them American pancakes (for a Europen kid, American pancakes taste better). Instead of writing the guest post I’ve been meaning to write for a week, plus prepare 2 other pitches. Jon will say I’m not dedicated enough and I’ll never get this ego-boosting email telling me he’s proud of his student, but I don’t even feel guilty. Because giving time and love to my kids is worth all the guest posts in the world.

    Thank you Jon for this beautiful post and for everything you do for us.

    Anne

    P.S.: getting back to my guest post now ๐Ÿ™‚

  37. Jo
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:01:20

    W-O-W! What a post!

    I’m a big fan of Tony Robbins, and I thought there may be some of that in there when I read the headline. But your post really put his actions into perspective for me right now as I’m thinking a lot about my purpose and career. By the way, he says the same thing – “The secret to living is GIVING!”

    WOW again, need to let this sink in some more.

    So I’m GIVING THANKS to you Jon for writing this!

  38. Shel Horowitz
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:03:56

    I’ve shared your post on Twitter, my Facebook profile, and my two Facebook community pages. It ties in well with the work I’m doing at business-for-a-better-world.com

  39. Zarayna
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:07:26

    A very happy Thanksgiving to you, Jon, from grey, damp Britain.
    It must have been twenty years ago when I first saw Tony Robbins. He appeared on a pretty ghastly morning TV programme here where he was explaining NLP to a less than receptive presenter. But it was his healing demonstration on a young man who was seriously phobic of water that stuck in my mind. Within a limited period Tony and the young man were walking out of the TV studio and along the wooden jetty beside the lake/river where boats were moored. The young man was now calm and prepared to embark, not just on a boat, but on the journey for the rest of his life free from a debilitating condition. Again, it wasn’t the rapidity of ‘healing’ that was impressive but Tony Robbins’ demeanour. He was warm, encouraging, confidence-imparting, friendly. He walked beside the young man – not patronizing, not controlling; focusing on his charge. Tony Robbins was simply an admirable human being.
    Just knowing that there are humane people in the world is a most terrific confidence boost: a beacon in a sometimes dark world. I thank you, Jon, and I thank TB for just being here with us and for encouraging and advising us: we who might be stumbling along but at least trying. So sincere thanks.
    But admit it, Jon, lately you have been watching Jerry Springer, haven’t you?

  40. Cylon George
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:10:21

    Thank you Jon for remind us about the true meaning of Thanksgiving and for why we are here, as bloggers and human beings on this Earth. We are here to serve others. It amazes me how easily we can become self-serving. May we remind ourselves daily to focus on giving.

    p.s. Tony Robbins’ Personal Power course powered me through college!

  41. Nick Garcia
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:13:05

    Giant post Jon!

    I just picked up Tonys new book, looking forward to it.

  42. Fabienne Raphael
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:20:22

    Hey Jon,

    Thanks for reminding us the real things. Serving people. And serving them so well that they will trust you, know you, like you.

    You are a great part of my evolution as an entrepreneur and as a person, so for that, I thank you Jon. Being generous is from my point of view your best quality ๐Ÿ™‚

    To take it a step further, let me share with you a tip I learned from Pat Flynn. Once in a while, get in touch with one of your email subscribers randomly. Thank him for being a loyal subscriber and sincerely offer him how you can help him for free. First of all, it creates a pleasant surprise, the person truly feels appreciated and is so looking forward for your help. Small gesture, but huge impact.

    I just did that last week and planned a strategy session for free with one subscriber. She said that this email was unexpected, but appreciated!

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and your team Jon, and to all BoostBlogTraffic readers!

  43. Koen @ TownHouseHome
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:31:59

    Wow. Just wow. I’m baffled. I really don’t know what to say.

    It’s true, people are getting more and more greedy, and selfish. They all want more, and preferably for less. I’m guilty of it as well, hiding my feelings and taking everything for granted. Things have to change.

    Thank you for the wakeup call. It came at just the right time.

  44. Steve Sanduski
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:35:05

    Jon,

    Thanks so much for sharing your personal stories and life insights. I always find great value and inspiration in your words and today is no exception.

    You mentioned Tony Robbins and a few days ago, I read all 616 pages of his new book. On page 606, he sums up the entire book by saying, โ€œThe ultimate message of this book is very simpleโ€ฆThe final secret of wealth is: the secret to living is giving.โ€

    Likewise, the late Sir John Templeton, a billionaire and one of the greatest investors of all-time, was asked what his greatest investment was. His response: โ€œtithing.โ€ He said giving away a percentage of his income gave him the greatest return on investment that heโ€™s ever made.

    So yes, on this day of Thanksgiving in the U.S., letโ€™s remember to give. And to quote Robbins again:

    โ€œGive freely, openly, easily, and enjoyable. Give even when you think you have nothing to give, and youโ€™ll discover there is an ocean of abundance inside of you and around you.โ€

    Jon and the entire team at BBT, thanks for all you do.

  45. Natalija
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:37:17

    So very true. The meaning of the holidays had shifted dramatically in past years with consumption as the main focus. We see that more each year as the Christmas items keep appearing on store shelves earlier and earlier. ‘Buy more now’ is the message instead of give as much as possible every day, not simply during the last month of the year.

    I particularly enjoyed, and wholeheartedly agree with, your last point about weirdos being the ones to change the world. All things are possible with perseverance.

    Thank you for giving us these lovely words and thoughts to ponder on a day where we should be giving instead of indulging.

  46. Barry Desautels
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 12:38:56

    Thanks for a great post Jon.
    Thought provoking, factual, inspiring as usual.
    Stay safe.
    Happy Thanksgiving.

  47. Heather Harbord
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:02:49

    The only American Thanksgiving I attended was a buffet potluck where everyone threw unopened bags of buns on the unset table and stuffed themselves with deep-fried turkey. The conversation was all about strategies for going to a K-Mart sale. I was appalled but thankful for an experience that I know not to repeat.
    Yes, there are definitely other things in life to be thankful for and itโ€™s good to take time to let people know you appreciate them. I keep a file of thank you notes from people who have taken the time to explain why they are thanking me and I re-read them periodically when I need a boost.
    The older you get, the more important it is to work at appreciating others and offering what help you can give. You will need their reciprocation when time is limited.

  48. Jon Bowes
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:10:50

    Jon, I loved this post.

    I posted something along the same lines a little while ago, it was called “What Everyone Ought to Know About Giving”

    It really is amazing how that one little difference in viewpoint can make such a big difference in results. I know I’m guilty of wondering what I’m getting in return for my time very often. After I post a new post I’ll be checking my traffic, checking my signups and wondering what I’ll get in return for my post.

    I’ve found when I just throw it out there, with the intention of creating something amazing that people will enjoy and treasure, then I get much better results than when I try to craft the headline, subheads and body all to encourage more shares or email sign-ups.

    I’ve shared a lot of your posts, but I’m gonna share this one today, and then go ahead and schedule it to be shared again in a month, and again a few months after that.

    Cause people need to read it no matter what time of year it is.

    Love you,
    Jon

  49. Mimi
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:12:59

    Hi John,
    I love the way you are outspoken, honest and you do this with clear, beautiful writing. Thanks for helping me write better with your efforts…I appreciate this. I read only two blogs, and look forward to yours.

  50. Melanie Harth
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:19:38

    I’ve missed you, Your Royal Awesomeness. Thank you for continuing to lead the way. Love you.

  51. Gaye @CalmHealthySexy
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:22:17

    Thanks for this very thoughtful post. It inspires me but also worries me, because I don’t know if I can create content that will really make a difference in people’s lives.

  52. Don Sturgill
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:44:44

    You think Thanksgiving’s bad, Jon … I can’t wait to hear your Christmas rant.

  53. Darren Scott MOnroe
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:51:04

    Jon meeting you and watching you grow has been nothing short of amazing

  54. Steffy
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:53:48

    Outstanding!! Thank you. The perfect inspiration for me today. My heart’s on fire. In the words of the great Smokey Robinson… I second that emotion.

  55. Jorge (BloggeaEnSerio.com)
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 13:55:56

    Amazing post Jon! Thanks for sharing! Great inspiration! Regards from Mexico.

  56. Hadia
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 14:00:23

    Wow, I am beyond speechless about this post. Thankyou, you honestly made me look at blogging and thanksgiving in a whole different perspective. I am thankful for your existence because you have touched so many lives selflessly and showed us that in what ever life condtion you are in, not been able to blog such never be an issue. Happy thanksgiving to you and everyone else reading this wonderful post.

  57. Jana
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 14:09:35

    Hi Jon:
    Your Thanksgiving reflections on giving ring loudly on the rarely rung ‘truth’ bell. It’s a strong and clear reverberation but don’t you wonder, “Is anyone really listening?” The origins of Thanksgiving are disguised by a typically inauthentic Hollywood treatment. Who realizes that the very band of First Nations people who rescued the “Pilgrims” were then treated to genocide, with the approval and encouragement of the government? It’s good to hear someone gifted with words challenge the status quo, but can the genuine joy of giving permeate the vicious gimme, gimme, gimme mindset of media trained selfishness?

  58. R.
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 14:31:17

    You really do have a gift, Jon.

  59. Jenna Dalton
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 14:54:21

    “Instead of making your life about how much you can get, why not make it about how much you can give?” Yes!

    Loved this post. It’s funny, for a while there I feel like I got lost in the “growing my list, making money, getting more clients” whirlwind and lost sight of the bigger reason why I’m doing this.

    Once I got back in touch with my “why”, and focused on giving everything I possibly could to my community, things started to fall into place more effortlessly. Clients. Cash. Subscribers. It all started flooding in and I felt really good about it because I was still staying in integrity.

    Thank you for sharing this, Jon. Happy Thanksgiving. I’m definitely thankful for you and your team ๐Ÿ™‚

  60. Michael Hicks
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 14:58:53

    This is the best post you’ve ever written, Jon.
    Hands down, slam dunk, straight from the heart,
    bottom of the 9th World Series Game 7 GRAND SLAM!

    And you’re right. Many folks purposely misconstrue
    recognition for appreciation. Facebook posts and tweets
    scream “Look at me!” instead of “I see you, and you
    are appreciated.” How much cooler would the world be
    if people engaged with one another in that fashion?

    Then again, the selfish among us treat virtual eyeballs
    like fashion statements. What’s in vogue today is kicked
    to the curb tomorrow. But as long as you give me a little
    pub that amps up my street cred, it’s all good. Being gone
    tomorrow is OK because it’s all about getting what I want
    at everyone else’s expense today.

    Call me crazy, but I find that selfish sentiment painfully
    and utterly pathetic. But hey, being cool and having fun
    are the most important things, right?

    Just because we have instant access to everything doesn’t
    mean we’re entitled to anything. So if you really want to
    make your mark in this world, then give of yourself and
    expect absolutely nothing in return. Then, and only then,
    will the true riches of the world reveal themselves…

    Many thanks again for an absolutely killer post, Jon.
    Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Holidays! ๐Ÿ™‚

  61. Theodore Nwangene
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 14:59:16

    What a superb post Jon,
    Indeed, one of the most beautiful things that happened to me today was reading this post oh my God, how could we have forgotten so soon?.

    I remembered that saying that “You’ll always get whatever you want in life if you’ll help enough other people get what they want” The problem is that majority of us has become self centred and the truth is that such attitude will never do us any good.

    So, lets all make the world a better place and that is by caring more about other people instead of just ourselves alone.

    Thanks for sharing Jon.

  62. Cecelia White Pineda
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:17:17

    Your Royal Awesomeness – you have earned your coveted title today!
    Your post brought me to tears and I don’t admit that lightly.
    – Think how much we all need just a little sincere, from-the-heart recognition and appreciation from time to time.
    – Think what it does for others when we give that. It’s so easy when we just pay attention.
    Thank you Jon for being a true hero today. From the look of it you have attracted a whole bunch of really good-hearted, caring people.
    – Thanks for all of the comments above.
    Kind of helps to keep the faith doesn’t it?

  63. Daisy
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:30:46

    Dear Jon:

    Thank you…I think you just solved the issue and cured my writer’s block.

    Have a wonderful day!

    Daisy

  64. Shaleen Hill
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:34:41

    This is Truth – simple, profound and pure.
    Thank you for your courage in speaking it Jon and thank you for giving all that you give.

  65. Carolyn
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 15:54:21

    I have been in business now for over 40 years. The joy of people who visit our working mini animal stud farm over the years has been amazing. The love these little animals give and receive is truly uplifting. But over recent years I have seen a change creeping in, a hunt for faster, bigger better. A sad loss of care for the ‘livingness” of animals. A desire for the perfectly arranged photo instead of the spontaneity of happy interaction. It is coming through from the younger generation. I could hardly believe my eyes recently at Disneyland when I realized that the huge tree with Tarzan’s tree house in it was completely fake! Of course the huge numbers of people who crawl all over this exhibit would eventually kill it so I do understand why it is fake. But isn’t that exactly what we are doing to our very precious world? Do you know the story of the Passenger pigeon from USA.? There has recently been a book written about it From Billions to None. Unbelievably that is what happened about 100 years ago. Absolutely none left now. And of course most said “it couldn’t possibly happen”. I hope people do take head about how precious our world, our friends and our family are and take care of all of them
    I love that saying of “when you walk through the woods take only photos and leave on footprints ” have a good life Carolyn

  66. Therese
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:00:24

    <3 <3 <3.

    Thank you, Jon, for all you've (unknowingly) given me. Your content HAS changed my life in so many ways. Grateful for what you've put out to the world… and thanks, too, for the reminder about serving others.

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Therese

  67. Pamela Mang
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:04:46

    Hi Jon,

    I gotta say, this is not the first time you completely surprised me from what I was expecting. But you have a great way of doing that, and I really appreciate it. I was beginning to think I had to be focused on MORE MORE MORE if I was ever going to have a successful blog– and it’s just not in me. I spend my days helping people who are overlooked and generally not the least bit empowered. Then I come home and try to focus on getting MORE for my blog. I’ve been struggling with that a lot lately. Felt like I was losing my integrity. Yet, in order to reach people, which is what I want to do with my blog, I thought I had to change and become this other person. Then bam, you come along saying the opposite of what I *thought* you were saying. I gotta love it. I feel much more at peace with who I am today. Thank you.

  68. Sonia
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:12:22

    “Normal people donโ€™t change the world. Weirdos do.”

    I couldn’t love this blog post anymore if I tried. Beautifully and poignantly said.
    The more we engage in electronics as a way to disengage, the further away we get from who we really are. We disconnect from what is important and from our true potential as human beings. We forget the the beauty inside ourselves because we are looking for it outside ourselves. And then we can’t see it in anyone else either.

    Thank you for putting yourself out there to be of service to all of us. With Gratitude, Sonia

  69. Anne Stirling Hastings
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:15:19

    Jon, this is so lovely! The purpose of a meditation practice, too. I have had 40,000 people read my articles on YourTango magazine, and thousands come to my website, but have few sales of my Transformational Fiction novels on Kindle. But my website bounce rate is 4% and readers go to many pages each visit. So I am helping people, even though it doesn’t show up in sales. That’s okay!

  70. Karim Benyagoub
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:16:31

    Hey Jon!

    Hope you’re doing great! Loved your current blog post ๐Ÿ™‚
    We don’t have thanksgiving in my country (Algeria – North Africa) but when the opportunity comes around, I’ll make sure to give (or give more than usual I mean, hehe ๐Ÿ™‚
    Wishing you a good time!
    K’

  71. Joel Libava
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:28:00

    Jon, I’ve been a fan of yours for years. There aren’t many people around who can write as well as you. Some of your posts have hit me like a punch to my solar plexus. Thank you for those punches. But, Jon…I want YOU to write the posts on this blog. Your guest writers do good work, but I’m not a blog subscriber because of them. I’m not your fan because of them. Please write more on your own blog, Jon. I need more punches. The Franchise Kingยฎ Joel Libava

  72. Joshua oladiti
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:40:05

    Hi jon, and fellow awesome bloggers.
    This post resonates with everything that form the fabric of my moral make-up and orientation. I have always believed in giving back to others as well, and the bulk of my life had continuously been lived to that end. I consider myself to be one of those change agents with unusual and revolutionary approach to helping people find themselves(even though I’ve have not completely found my own self either, but i feel i find more of me as i help others find themselves). With that said, i want to use this forum to request the help of any one who is a true believer in the powers of an idea pregnant with the potential to effect change in an entire generation. I’m looking to start my own blog to help share my ideas to those that might be in need of them, however, i don’t know how to go about it. I will be truely and sincerely indebted to whoever will put me under their wings, and assist me in my endeavor to join the team of world changers, by the agency of our words. In other words, someone that will help with me with landing a platform where i could share my ideas in the form of blogs. I love everyone, and i hope the world would be more loving as well, and that people will find purpose for their lives. In the end, that’s my ultimate object.
    Happy Thanksgiving to all, Josh.

  73. Paul Back
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:46:27

    Hey Jon

    I had finished up a post about Dale Carnegie and this post really resonates. One big similarity between many great people seems to be that they are not afraid to give big and ask nothing back.

    It is very easy to lose focus on that and begin to get a little selfish, but that is just human nature. But if you constantly shift that focus back when you feel yourself slipping than you are already doing more than 99%.

    It is always a pleasure to see one of your posts, and I was feeling that it had been a long time. I feel really proud to be one of your students and you reaffirm my decision every time you write.

    Thank you for that

    Paul

    P.S Thanks for the mention Lynne! I hope you guys figure out that guest posting opportunity with the GB community and your blog – you have an incredible blog and Jon, Glen and co train people to become incredible bloggers.

  74. June Morrow
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 16:58:58

    Brilliant post! I’m just at the start of my blogging journey but have put the words “How can you give people an experience so life-changing they will feel indebted to you forever?” at the top of my strategic plan. This reminds me of the something I read about Mandy Hale at the Single Woman. Before writing a blog post she used to (and maybe still does) pray that it would help someone reading it in some way. That really is the essence of what we as bloggers are trying to do. Thanks for reminder and great advice!

  75. Evan
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 17:04:07

    Some of us have been giving great value for a long time and are still poor.

    The thing you overlook (because you are so good at what you do – I call it the ‘expertise problem’) is figuring out what people want, where the hungry crowd is etc.

    I think giving is essential but the other stuff matter a lot too.

  76. Jan
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 17:19:38

    Man, your blog posts are long. Try to focus more, you go left and right and it seems endless before you get to the point. I like your subject and agree (mostly) with your point of view, but I can’t finish your entire blog post because it lacks focus.

    • Zarayna
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 17:45:41

      Hello Jan,
      Please don’t take offence but may I ask a question? As evidenced, you have taken a somewhat individual take on Jon’s post compared with the rest of us. I am curious. By any chance, could it be that your irritation in the length of time you had to invest in reading the post and its alleged lack of focus, I do wonder, is your day job connected perhaps to the field of sex therapy where issues of timing and focus can get out of balance and cause distress? Please accept my kind regards.

    • Evan
      Nov 27, 2014 @ 18:15:19

      Jon, could probably do more signposting eg I want to attack the topic in this way; to understand why this is important to me, to understand what I’m going to say you need to understand this and so on.

      It’s probably a feature too of voice to text.

  77. Ali
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 17:32:33

    You just raised the bar even further Jon. You always had the content and expertise to keep the audience engaged, but with posts like these you are being legendary. The human element is surely the missing link while everyone tries to chase down their dreams. So easy to get distracted and even more difficult to take a pause and reflect on proceedings. You are a true champion for taking the difficult route and resetting the compass for many …… Many a writings would carry more meanings and writers better off after this post …..And you will be a part of every one of them

  78. Caitlin Grace
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 17:32:43

    Great post and very relevant! I don’t live in the US but have always loved the idea of Thanksgiving and gratitude in general.
    To say thank you to my followers on my Facebook page I am running a giveaway today – nothing big and just to say Thanks for sticking around and reading my stuff. I am also sitting down to write a thank you card to the people who own my favorite cafe – they have had a rough time and I want them to know how much I value the space they create for people to hang out.
    So thanks for the reminder about the season is all about.

  79. Jeff
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 17:54:23

    I love the idea of being weird. And it can take on a profound simplicity. If you step into just one person’s life, you can make a difference. You don’t have to move mountains for 40,000 people. I’ve been overwhelmed by trying to do too much. When I’ve whittled things down, making a difference becomes such a tangible thing. If you just stop, look around you, and give your full attention and gratitude for just one single person in your life. For that one person, it can be life-changing. And it can change your life too.

  80. Susan Jones
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 19:05:43

    Thanks for this post Jon. It’s a great reminder of what’s most important.

    I totally agree with you. There’s something about focusing exclusively on the dollars that really kills the spirit and specialness of what we do.

    I’m walking through this right now myself. I really need my business to start producing income to support my family. But all I know is, that when I focus on what I can do for dollars, the whole thing feels panicky and deathly. When I focus on what I can do that feels right and that will serve people, I feel at peace and am able to keep going and contributing.

    And I have to add that I so appreciate you and Marsha and all the team. I hear that you are refocusing, but I also want to acknowledge how much you have given over so many years. Thank you.

  81. Cathryn Wellner
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 19:45:49

    Tears, smiles, cheers – you brought all of them on with this blog post. You model what you teach, and I always know reading anything you send us will be worthwhile. But this one really dug down deep and reached me on a soul level. What a gem you are.

  82. Julia
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 19:49:22

    It takes a great deal of courage to admit (so very publicly) not only that *we* have lost perhaps our way in the thick of “doing,” but that we have led others astray along the way too. I salute your courage, I applaud your realization, and thank you greatly not only for the honesty in this post, but in all that you share with us and that are steep in knowledge, humanity, and empathy. Happy giving!

  83. Jessica Blanchard
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 19:59:13

    Hey Jon,
    This is a great post. Just before reading it I was joking with my husband that it was time to drive to Walmart to get in line so we could save $3 on socks.

    What I loved most was how you bring out why you do what you do. I’ve gotten a tremendous amount of help from you & the rest of the BLF team so far. I was kind of floundering about how I could help people to feel better via food and wellness. I needed the structure and advice that you give.

    Very nice to think that many use the blogging medium to help other people. Especially as the masses are being consumed by the consumption fever.

  84. Peter
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 20:55:40

    Hey Jon,
    When it comes to sharing exceptional free ‘actionable’ content, there’s no one better than you. (At least as far as I have explored in the blogosphere!)
    Makes you wonder, how much better can his paid content be?
    It’s like the Batman trilogy.
    When I watched Batman Begins, I was surprised. Finally, here was a Batman movie really depicting him as he is. Before watching the Dark Knight, I had wondered, “Can it get better?” After I watched it, ‘better’ became the understatement of the decade.
    That’s what your paid content is like!
    I wonder Jon, how do you manage to give so much in your paid programs?
    You are a giver… and that’s why we all love you!
    Peter.

  85. Ray
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 21:22:12

    Dear Jon,

    This post couldn’t have been written at a better time. Thank you for your keen insights not only into blogging, but also the nuances of self-interest and generosity.

    I started a fashion blog a few months ago, and noticed a slow change in me actually. I found myself wanting… a certain reaction, needing that validation, getting resentful as if my readers owe me – something that doesn’t at all align with who I am as a person. I’m all about giving, I get inwardly ecstatic when someone comes to me with a problem… and yet metrics and numbers snuck up on me and I became a tiny Bloggerzilla. This led to an identity crisis about how I could be myself and still grow my list.

    I haven’t yet found the complete answer but your words drew me closer to it. The truth is: I owe them. I have to be more of myself and enjoy what I love about blogging: giving.

    Thank you for all that you do Jon. I’m a bit scared of you, ha, but I’m very grateful that you’re around to help us navigate this old tumultuous world of blogging ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Much love x

  86. Lee Tyler
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 21:51:13

    Jon,

    Once again, you have given us a cut to the bone, heartfelt gift. An example for all of us. My favorite line:

    “Give them your love.
    Give them your thanks.
    And most of all, give them yourself.”

    I have been trying to hide the disability that is now me. The numbers game that feels like a ride through Las Vegas has turned my stomach. I have been wondering how I can compete in this business when I should be wondering how I can *give*. Your re-evaluation of your goals meant more than I can say. I am following a similar ‘self-assessment’ when it comes to my ‘truth’. (The latter phrasing makes this pragmatic person turn up her nose. Yet it is the truth, however I look at it.) I have a packet of dried fruit and Crytal Light as my thanksgiving meal while I write my thank you letters. This one is for you, Jon. Thank you for all you do for us, all you give to us, but mostly thank you for showing your honest self-assessment to all. You are such a bright light in this neon-lit world. ๐Ÿ™‚

  87. Sharilee
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 22:10:22

    Mr. Morrow,

    Thank you for this. I needed to hear this. I spent four years training to be a teacher, and taught mostly in high-need communities. My whole life has been about giving and teaching. And I started out with the attitude of helping whoever I could with my writing.

    But after a while, I become very discouraged when I helped and helped, but got nothing back. So, part of me decided not to give quite so much. To see what I could get out of it. But the teacher in me has felt awful about developing this attitude. It’s really no fun and pretty boring when we are living for what we can get. There is no joy like helping others.

    Three years ago, I wrote a post for those who had lost their mother on Mother’s Day, and watched Google Analytics on year as hundreds read it. No other moment of my online life has been more gratifying, than to know other people were being helped cope with Mother’s Day after they had lost their Mom.

  88. Justin Ham
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 22:59:13

    Love this post!

    It’s encouraging to read this. Recently, I switched my resolution from making a $1million to donating a $1million. Hope to strive to live a giving life.

    Thank you for this post!

  89. Rachel
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 23:17:24

    Yes yes yes!! Thank you.

  90. Thomas
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 23:20:35

    Hey Jon, I just found you a month or two ago and have been getting your emails. I like this one the best so far, got me thinking about my own blog as I have changed goals somewhat. The theme of my own site is similar in some ways to this post, so you may think it is interesting: http://www.gogreatergood.com. Anyway, thanks for putting up this nice post and I’ll be reading you again soon.

    Thomas

  91. Pooja
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 23:24:38

    Just 3 words for this. Thank YOU Jon!

    Love,
    Pooja

  92. Tanja
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 03:42:18

    Hi Jon

    What a great post – I love it. THANK YOU very much for your inspiring words.

    All the best from Switzerland & hope to hear from you soon,
    Tanja

  93. Bryan Collins
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 05:51:54

    Great post Jon and definitely different to your other ones! I came here first for the blogging tips, tricks and guides, but I stay because of writing like this.

  94. Iris Dorreboom
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 06:45:50

    Hey Jon, Thanks for sharing and putting the giving back in Thanks giving. And while we’re at it: thank YOU for the inspiration and your willingness to look at yourself and write about it – not just in this postโ€ฆ

  95. Charmaine Langley
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 09:55:59

    Wow! Wow! Wow! I’m blown away. The emotion has brought me crying, not just tears in my eyes. Talk about hitting me right in the chest – with one blow! And did I need it – Yes, I did.

    You see, I’ve been sooo sorry for myself the last 9 months. Circumstances I thought were so unfair made us leave Asutralia after 8 years and return to South Africa, with nothing, earlier this year. And have I felt sorry, depressed and angry.

    Why? Because it’s me, me, me – selfish. I get that!

    So , His Royal Awesomeness, a HUGE BIG THANK YOU for reminding me what life is all about. I send you hugs and appreciation and wish you an truly inspiring, rewarding Thanksgiving. I’ll be weird with you, to remind myself why!

    I have just started blogging, having written only one post. Not sure if I was onto anything, packed that in for a bit and trawled the web for insights, found Jon and started to subscribe 2 weeks ago. I have been reading through your articles to see how I should set myself up. And there it is – you have incredible wealth and insight. Do I heven have an idea of how to promote an idea with ‘no product’ right now? No! But Jon is truly inspiratonal and has given me fresh hope. And one day I too can have a steady income flow so I can purchase additonal articles from you.

    I’ll definitely be sharing your site on my blog once I’m back to that.

    Once agun – THANK YOU!!

    • John
      Nov 28, 2014 @ 11:55:00

      Charmaine,

      Have you ever read “The Four Agreements”? It’s an awesome quick read and changed my perspective on things when I was going through a rough patch! Check it out if you get a chance, it really helps with the whole feeling sorry for yourself thing. Also, best of luck with your new blog!

  96. John
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 11:47:09

    Jon, LOVED the “weirdos change the world” ethos. So true! If we have a business as usual mindset, we become complacent with the stores opening at 6PM ON THANKSGIVING in order to shop for Black Friday! Crazy. Here’s a post I’m giving to you all, from a weirdo ๐Ÿ™‚ http://www.practicalcivilization.com/5-reasons-black-friday-bullshit/

  97. Chris Ellis
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 11:51:06

    Thank you Jon! Another classic!!!!! Love it!

  98. Melissa
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 13:07:07

    Jon, thank you for reminding us what truly matters in blogging and in life in general. You give so much to the world with posts like this. I’m thankful for you.
    Melissa

    • Auset
      Nov 28, 2014 @ 17:28:14

      I strive to find a balance between technical skill and following my heart & spirit in business. Therefore, I rarely sign up for “how to build a better ______” . I learn the technical skill, then try to somehow fit it in with my heart & spirit – with heart & spirit having the final say as to whether or not I use a business tactic.
      I only chose to sign up for your newsletter Jon because I “felt” something from you more than just blogging skills. You really touched me today and made me glad that I get your newsletter & when it is time to clean out my inbox, you will be a keeper ๐Ÿ™‚
      “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I feel this happens so many times, in so many ways in life. Tony Robbins moved you & you moved us. I will make sure I continue to focus on balanced giving getting.

      Keep stoking this fire my friend – the light from it will guide the way!
      Have a wonderful Thanksgiving Jon, take care & big hugs ๐Ÿ™‚

  99. Beth Havey
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 16:31:00

    Jon, thank YOU for all that you give over and over. When you teach, you give. When you share your experience, you give. When you hand out free material, you give.
    I am grateful for you and I hope my writing is and will always be a gift to my readers. Beth Havey

  100. Ryan Biddulph
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 17:16:33

    Hi Jon,

    To anybody who reads this far; and with your busy sked, maybe I should address this to “rabid BBT fan who reads comments this far,” LOL….I am giving value to you, and your blog, through this comment. That’s most of my intent. Since I’m not BSing myself, I sure don’t mind any sweet BBT traffic clicking through to my blog ๐Ÿ™‚

    You summed up my blogging life. I am touched by this post because I’ve genuinely, authentically, moved into the giving frame of mind over the past 2-3 weeks online. I mean, I gave, alright, and helped, and assisted, and I’ve been able to blog from paradise because of it, but I was still a wee bit flummoxed in Fiji and baffled in Bali – until recently – as I was searching for something.

    That something was the feeling, the generosity, of true altruism. I sure as hell will never find it because I’m not ready to shave my ahead – again ๐Ÿ˜‰ – beg for alms here in Thailand, and give up a worldly life. I shoved Thai snacks down my gullet and a banana shake to boot a few hours ago. Glutton? Yeah, sometimes, and other digs, and outright freaking pig ๐Ÿ™‚

    I largely, genuinely, feel a shift happening that’s moving me from being serious about giving, to being fun about giving. I am laughing at myself 2-3 more times weekly ;)…..I am also learning to laugh and agree with those who don’t agree with me. I honestly believe your blog, and your story, and posts like these, have helped point me in that direction.

    Some of what I love about living in Asia for much of the past 44 months is the lesser focus on getting, compared to the US. The $3.44 dinners for 2 don’t hurt either, ya know ๐Ÿ™‚ I honestly believe though that seeing happy, clear people, with little or nothing, materially, inspired me to unleash my power. And the power wasn’t found in getting, but in giving with joy, to build bonds, to make friendships, and to inspire others to do the same.

    I may not comment until #128, but I’m still giving. It’s a secret – along with me pulling the wool over folk’s eyes – of me blogging from paradise, and gaining endorsements, and all that neat stuff. I really am not special, and am unimportant, but maybe what I’m doing can free a few folks. So I keep doing it, take less credit, then, take more credit and accept royalty checks, and laugh about my “selflessness”, and move forward.

    I care less and less about playing the logic game, and focus more on making friends.

    I just spent 4 months in Fiji. We lived 10 minutes from Tony Robbin’s famed resort, Namale. Honest Jon, I admire the guy and learned, through first hand, private stories of locals who worked with the guy, why he’s worth $400 million dollars. He cares as much about the guy who did his tech work on Namale, giving in thousands of dollars as a tip, and investing thousands more to have special equipment shipped to Fiji for him, and giving him lobster dinners, all when this guy was working off of the clock….he cares as much about this guy, as he does about world leaders.

    He has mastered the art of giving, and of expressing gratitude, so *gets* energy few on earth have tapped. As he gets, he gives again, which is where hundreds of millions of dollars are earned.

    Yet, I totally do not vibe with so much he does! That’s his beauty; he’s so good at giving, that I endorse him and his energy, and study him, yet his approach to self help, while so successful, led me down a different path, a force-filled path, that just plain didn’t resonant with me.

    All roads lead to Rome, and if you want Power, or access to that Power, learn to give…..and learn how to tell stories like that super star blogger Jon Morrow!

    Thanks for sharing your always entertaining, compassionate, clear insight Jon. We will keep reading, buy and supporting, so get used to it ๐Ÿ™‚

    Have a fun weekend!

    Ryan

  101. Cate Scolnik
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 18:41:44

    Well Jon,

    It’s certainly the same here in Australia – the time frame is just slightly different. All the greed focuses around pre-Christmas sales for gifts, and Boxing Day sales for ‘bargains we have to have’.

    If it’s any consolation I see you as a VERY giving person. You give a lot of great advice in each blog post, almost too much to action at times. And I’d describe the Blog Launch Formula as having a ‘miraculous’ effect.

    Although I’ve not finished it yet, it’s been a total life saver – and life changer. I can feel it. It’s also brought me incredible peace of mind because all I have to do is follow the program. Nothing else. Not pay attention to all those other people telling me what to do, overwhelming and confusing me. Just listen to you, Your Royal Awesomeness.

    Thank YOU for your honesty, integrity and prose.

    Cate

  102. Bryan
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 19:12:17

    I’m a fellow BLF member too. Well said Cate. The security of BLF is helping lots of bloggers like us.

  103. Lux Ganzon
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 22:45:04

    Thank you too, Jon! I actually included you on my Thanksgiving post on my blog because I’ve learned so much from you. I haven’t yet applied everything yet but I’m getting there.

    We don’t celebrate Thanksgiving in the Philippines but I thought I’d take the opportunity the people I’m thankful for in my life.

  104. Brittany Bullen
    Nov 28, 2014 @ 22:46:10

    His Royal Awesomeness,

    (It’ll catch on)

    You took the words right out of my mouth, Jon. In fact, I actually wrote a post on this exact subject for the International Bloggers Association last week. It’s tough to get in the mode of always pushing yourself to achieve more (good) without getting self-involved (not so good).

    Thanksgiving is the perfect time to be having that conversation. Thank you for bringing it up. I’m currently in the desert visiting my family and the place where we’re staying doesn’t have WiFi so I haven’t done anything for any of my sites while we’ve been here, and I must say it feels stellar to take a break from it all, get that perspective back and remember what really matters.

    I can’t imagine what it must feel like to be a VIP guest of Tony Robbins, but to me it seems like you are an obvious choice for him since you’re such an inspiring guy!

    I’m loving your emails, btw. Hope you had a happy holiday!
    Brittany

  105. Jilliann
    Nov 29, 2014 @ 00:57:58

    Jon,
    Thank you for this post, you are spot on! It’s tempting to feel a degree of despair when observing what is happening in our culture. But then – there are those who choose to focus on giving and encourage others to do the same. You are an inspiration and model of unselfishness in my book. ๐Ÿ™‚
    With gratitude,
    Jilliann

  106. Lorraine Reguly
    Nov 29, 2014 @ 01:01:09

    Jon, I completely agree with you. Being selfish is not what blogging is all about. Heck, being selfish is not what LIFE is all about.

    I think the Christmas spirit of giving should be kept alive 365 days a year.

    It’s too bad that it’s often NOT.

  107. Pete Brown
    Nov 29, 2014 @ 02:17:24

    I’m just a little old guy over here, down-under in Australia. Your comments were so good to read. I’ve seen a lot of things in my life and not many of them were designed to help other people.

    Good on you.

    Cheers,

    Pete

  108. Jade Campbell
    Nov 30, 2014 @ 09:33:34

    Hi Your Royal Awesomeness,
    Just loved your post – your honesty – your reflections – methinks tis your best post yet, and I love Tony Robbins followed him for over 25 yrs.
    Although I am disgusted recently with some of the unnecessary language under the guise of pattern interrupts – doesn’t hold true for me – he was successful and got the message thru for decades without compromising his decency and embarrassing others, which I believe is more about publicity.

    Your post moved me – succinctly and directly, because I have been furiously writing notes about how I wont behave online, the scarcity techniques and other BS I won’t employ – it’s like a pack of sheep following each other blindly with upsells x 4 , pop ups galore and it makes you sick to your stomach.

    At the end of the day you have to be true to yourself and what you believe is right – so when you follow gurus, take what you can apply to your unique self – but don’t slavishly follow all they do.

    if you are unique and true to you – your audience will find you and be loyal to you because you stand up and be counted for your beliefs.

    If you join the sheep – you will just be another same old, same old, boring and predictable money grabbing mobster.

    You are a wonderful human being Jon – thanks for this uplifting post.

  109. Rodney C. Davis
    Nov 30, 2014 @ 12:02:42

    A couple years ago I thought maybe I should only be commenting in my own niche, so I went silent on here. But this post has been sitting on a new tab all weekend as I fought off the temptation to say something. I have this feeling that universal messages like these are resonating with people around the globe like never before. I think online marketers are beginning to recognize it as their real mission regardless of what market they serve. I felt the shift when Tea started with her “slow marketing” concept. Maybe it’s just my imagination, but I’ve somehow detected similar subtle shifts from quite a few others as well. For me its confirmation that technology is finally helping humanity to reconnect with itself once more.Thanks, Jon. This is the first of the best days of our lives!

  110. Darrell
    Nov 30, 2014 @ 22:30:15

    Jon – thanks for sharing these thoughts. You’re an impressive dude. It’s great to hear that the best get off course a bit from time to time and for you to share your course correction.

    I’m a Tony Robbins student myself (UPW forced me to do some pretty deep thinking – loved that) so I get that.

    Thanks again for sharing.

  111. A.S.
    Dec 01, 2014 @ 07:19:56

    Hi Jon,

    I loved this article so much that while approaching the end of it, I could not wait to click the share button to share on my facebook. The only problem was, I could not find the facebook share button on the side bar or at the bottom of the article. I scrolled up and down a few times, and finally discovered it at the top of the article. Would you consider making the facebook share button more accessible? Thank you!

  112. Tor Refsland
    Dec 01, 2014 @ 07:25:48

    Hi Jon,

    first of all, thank you for once again serving us the unmasked truth. This time, though, you are taking it a step further (in a positive way). You are stripping naked and really telling people what you feel and think about regarding your own goals vs. giving value. Big kudos for that!

    This time, your post hits me right in the core of the heart. We should all focus on what amazing value we can give to others, and if we do live up to the task, it will be reciprocated. That is not only the core of true content marketing, but the true mindset of good, successful people.

    As Zig Ziglar puts it: โ€œWhen you help enough people get what they want, you will get what you want.โ€

    Your success will be the sum of the value you create for other people and how many people you can reach.

    I can relate to what you are saying, that you probably weren`t going to Tony`s seminar if it wasn`t for the free tickets. And why did you get the tickets? Because a friend of you sent your post to Tony`s wife.

    It`s often what may be perceived as a coincident that creates the events that will change your life in the biggest way.

    Two years ago, I was invited by a friend to participate on an extraordinary vacation. It was a volunteerism trip to Guatemala, where we were helping building a bottle school for the local children. That event changed my life completely. It changed my focus from money, material things and success to becoming happy, take care of my family and friends, and last, but not least, help other people.

    Lately, I`ve been doing some soul searching, and I`ve quit my six-figure corporate job in order to follow my dreams โ€“ to help other people and to really make a difference.

    Tor Refsland

  113. Esther
    Dec 01, 2014 @ 12:32:40

    Thank you Jon for this beautiful post.

  114. Lisa Kasanicky
    Dec 01, 2014 @ 17:23:54

    Thank you for this post Jon. You are truly an inspirational writer and human being. Rock on.

  115. Sylviane Nuccio
    Dec 01, 2014 @ 20:35:44

    I’m glad I found your post Jon, very honest and great too:)

    For one thing, speaking of Tony Robbins he has often said that people will do what makes them feel good. In his case doing what he does IS what makes him FEEL GOOD, that’s why he does it. Not the money.

    Money is only a mean to an end, it’s not what makes us feel good. If it is then, we have a problem, most likely.

    Sometimes in our race against success we may forget that the very purpose of a blog is to help others. We most definitely need to remember that. So thank you for the reminder and at the right time.

  116. Peteni
    Dec 03, 2014 @ 13:26:54

    Wow! What a profound post.

    I guess we often start thinking of others when we achieved at a selfish level. We are often too desperate to think out the box. I’m glad you have the privilege of a blog that raked in $500 000 in 9 months and are able to reflect at a level higher than self gain.

    I hope I will think along your lines despite the fact that my blog is new and has generated a single dollar.

    Once again, beautiful post

  117. Austin
    Dec 03, 2014 @ 17:59:00

    Hey Jon,

    I’m new to the site and new to blog writing. I’ve been fascinated with a lot of the content on the site, and this article is certainly top-notch.

    I recently entered the copywriting world and have begun reading Tim Sanders’ Love Is The Killer App. He talks a lot about giving freely of your “intangibles,” which he defines as knowledge, network, and compassion. Anyway, it was way neat to see similarities between your post here and Sanders’ work.

    Give, give, give. What a great action in any pursuit.

    Thanks!

  118. Michael Yardney
    Dec 26, 2014 @ 16:53:29

    Thanks for another inspiring post Jon.
    Itโ€™s good to get an occasional slap across the back of the head and have everything out back into perspective.
    Wishing you a healthy, happy and prosperous 2015.
    Keep these great blogs coming

  119. karly
    Dec 28, 2014 @ 21:21:34

    Hi Jon!
    Wow what a great article! I have read this a few times and it always brings me back to my soul purpose.. GIVE! A lot of times I think to myself, “how can I make MORE money..get MORE viewers and followers”. I realize that if I just follow my heart and continue to let my words flow and if that helps one person in this world thats all that truley matters. Peace and love to you brotha!

    Karly

  120. Jeff
    Jan 23, 2015 @ 23:59:51

    Yep, reading this again. Still inspirational!

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